Signs
Of Empathy
20 topics and questions
discussed gathered
from various polls and individuals with my evaluation
"Empathy... is not
sympathy. Sympathy is a way of reacting to someone who is suffering.
Empathy is feeling that suffering as if it were you own. In it's
simplest form, it is flinching when someone slams his finger in a door.
At it's most sophisticated, it is their pain in your heart."
The word "empathy" is derived from the Greek words "empatheia" meaning
"passion" and "pathein" meaning "to experience, suffer". An empath
experiences the feelings of others... not merely as a substitution of
one's own feelings or a realization of how one would feel in a similar
situation. An empath can feel another without even knowing the other's
situation. While many people have empathy, the ability to understand
another person's feelings implicitly, they are not necessarily
empathic. Additionally, the word empathy does not take into account the
physiological, instinctual, and/or primal sharing that can occur with
empaths. (For example, an empath may experience that pain of another or
could have a psi-somatic reaction to another's illness.) For this
reason, I draw the distinction between "empathy" and "empathic".
Miriam-Webster's on-line dictionary defined "empathic" as "involving,
eliciting, characterized by, or based on empathy".
Having drawn a
distinction between the psychological term "empathy" and empathic
abilities, I'd also like to draw a distinction between empathic
abilities and psychic abilities. On the one hand, psychic abilities and
empathic abilities are virtually the same, as I believe that they come
from the same source and use many of the same systems. On the other
hand, psychic abilities again have the common interpretation of dealing
with thought energies while empathic abilities are interpreted as
dealing with emotional energies. There is a difference between thoughts
and feelings. Additionally, I feel how our energies are channeled is
the main difference between psychic and empathic abilities.
Psychics tend to channel their energies mainly through the heart
chakras
and above, while empaths mainly channel their energies through the
heart chakra and below. People able to channel through most of all of
the chakras easily are both empathic and psychic. "Chakra" is the
Sanskrit word for "wheel" and they are the energy vortexes or gates in
our bodies.
There are seven major chakras and many "minor" ones, but all are
important. We all channel some life energy through all of the chakras,
but
some chakras are often more "open" than others.
Empaths tend to have their lower chakras open while psychics
(channelers and clairvoyants) tend to have their upper chakras open.
Since we are on the topic of words, however, the ideal word to use to
describe the abilities I am focusing on would have been "telepathy",
which originally mean "far feeling." Unfortunately, the common
interpretation of telepathy is thought communication and I feel that
this interpretation would be a distraction for most people. I prefer
the term "empath" to specifically describe telepaths who pick up
emotional, physical and instinctual responses from others.
Question/Topic 1: How often do
you feel
waves of emotions sweep over you from a source outside of
yourself?
Psychics, empaths and
vampires can all feel the emotions of others to an extent.
Psychic and empathic abilities fall on the same spectrum and are not
mutually exclusive. The more sensitive a psychic, empath or vampire is,
the more often they tend to feel the emotions of other beings.
Psychics tend to be more attuned to the positive emotions that they
describe as bliss, love, celestial guidance etc. and they tend to enjoy
these feelings.
Empaths tend to most sensitive to negative emotions: anger, isolation,
sadness and emotional pain. While they can also love to laugh and
prefer happy moments, empaths are particularly prone to depression.
They feel the pain around them and it can cause sadness within them.
Sometimes these waves may be so intense, they may seem to be
overwhelming... the empath may experience mood swings that have no
overt physical or psychological cause.
Many empaths will describe a feeling of being overwhelmed by these
emotions or even feeling smothered by them.
Those who feel positive emotions but can not enjoy them or enjoy
negative emotions may be exhibiting vampiric tendencies.
Question/Topic 2: How do you
feel about
most animals?
Empaths usually have a
strong affinity towards all animals, perhaps slightly more so than
psychics, but I don't know if there is significance to this yet.
Indicating that one can't stand animals, however, is typically
non-empathic.
Question /Topic 3: How do
animals tend to
react to you?
Empaths operate on a
lower level than psychics... a level approaching the level of energy
that animals sense and appreciate.
Many animals are amazing generous with their energy and empaths often
feel very happy and comfortable with animals and vice versa. There
tends to be a cooperative link established. I often refer to this
ability as the "Gift of St. Francis", as St. Francis of Assisi was an
empath with amazing abilities to communicate with animals.
Psychic vampires, however, may experience a complete rejection by
animals or feel that animals respond to their psychic commands.
Question /Topic 4: How often
do you get the
sense that certain people drain (or attempt to drain)?
Albert Einstein's
famous equation "E=mc2" tells us that energy is matter and vice versa.
I believe that almost everything is basically energy and power. Certain
people, whether consciously or not, attempt to drain us of our energy
and often they are successful. Psychics, psionic and empathic people
are usually quite sensitive to these attempts and the more sensitive
one is to the attempt the more often one will feel it occurring.
Psychic and strongly psionic people seem to be the best at blocking
these attempts, quite probably because people with vampiric tendencies
were or are empathic themselves. There may be other reasons why
psychics seem to be better able to handle psychic vampires, however,
and I would be interested in hearing theories from psychics and even
vampires as to why that may be.
Question /Topic 5: Deals with
sensuality
and touch.
People with vampiric
tendencies tend to despise touch unless they are initiating it, yet
they also feel they are extremely sensual people.. This is not to say
that all people who have difficulty with issues of touch are vampires.
Many people who have experienced abuse in their lives also may express
some difficulty with people touching them.
Psychics and some empaths tend to enjoy touch as much as or slightly
more than the average person.
People with strong empathic abilities, however, tend to be extremely
sensual people. They are often very sexual and/or erotic (root chakra
is quite strong) and enjoy physical touch a great deal.
Question /Topic 6: Deals with
the feelings
people have towards certain beings.
Feelings towards
werewolves does not seem to have significance for either psychics or
empaths. I tend to think that people with vampiric tendencies also do
not relate with werewolves, but I'll withhold judgment until after the
analysis.
Both empaths and psychics may find themselves fascinated with sprites
or faeries, while vampires would probably be repulsed by them.
Empaths are either strongly fascinated by vampires, repulsed by them or
both. Psychics are usually repulsed by them and vampires are usually
fascinated by them. This choice is a strong flag of abilities because
the vampires represent very real vampiric experiences that psychics,
empaths and vampires have felt in different ways.
Fascination with angels may be an indication of psychic (clairvoyant
and channeling) abilities, while revulsion may be an indication of
vampiric tendencies.
Fascination or revulsion of aliens may be a mild indication of psychic
abilities.
Question /Topic 7: Do Empaths
tend to be
very sensuous people?
If you are not ashamed
or embarrassed about your body, yes . Logic is not enough to fill the
gaps in their understanding of the universe, empaths need to sense and
feel. Since strong empaths tend to feel closed in and smothered by the
feelings around them, they often prefer peaceful rural settings where
they can tune themselves in to nature. Empaths who are very strong
often wish they could go back to the simple life of Adam and Eve,
running naked in nature feeling the energy flow unencumbered by the
insulative qualities of clothing.
Remember that empaths seem to operate mainly through the lower chakras,
which are usually covered by clothing which blocks some of the energy
flow through these chakras. Since the throat, forehead and crown
chakras
tend not to be covered most of the time by clothing that restricts
energy flows, psychics may not feel this yearning. Some empaths,
especially in our society, were brought up in a shameful environment
and shame may be a tremendous block for them, and they tend feel very
restricted by these feelings. (Shame is one of the more powerful blocks
to empathy)
Question /Topic 8 Deals with
common fears.
Empaths tend to be
very much in touch with animals, and will probably not fear them.
Empaths and psychics will probably not fear witches or pagan rituals.
Many empaths and psychics believe that they live prior lives including
lives in which they were accused of witchcraft or heresy because of
their beliefs and abilities, so they tend to have an affinity to
witches, if anything. (note: many are witches and followers of other
Pagan based paths.)
Fear of vampires may be an indication of psychic and/or empathic
abilities for reasons previously stated.
The fear of drowning or being smothered is a very strong indication of
empathic abilities and possibly psychic abilities.
Some empaths may feel that they are being smothered by the negative
emotions of others.
This feeling may represent itself in our psyche as a fear of drowning,
being smothered or even claustrophobia. Additionally, there may be
another reason: those empaths and psychic who feel that they lived
previous lives as witches may fear drowning and being smothered because
the preferred method of execution for those convicted was drowning,
suffocation by hanging or suffocation by being crushed with stones.
(While some witches were indeed "burned at the stake", most it seems
dies by suffocation or drowning.
The fear of heights has no significance for psychics, empaths or
vampires.
Question/Topic 9: Pick two
colors which
energize you the most.
People with vampiric
abilities tend to pick "black" and "red"
People with empathic abilities tend to pick "black", "red", "orange",
"yellow", "green"
People with psychic abilities tend to pick "green", "blue", "indigo",
"violet" and "white"
There may be two reasons for these findings:
1. People commonly associate emotions or ideals with colors. For
example, red is often associated with anger or passion. Orange is often
associate with warmth and yellow with sunniness and happiness. Green is
often associated with health. Blue is associated with calmness (or
alternatively with sadness.) Violet is often a symbol of wisdom,
regality and psychic awareness. Black is a somber color for some while
white is a symbol of celestial purity for others. Given that empaths
are very passionate people who enjoy warm feelings but often experience
somber feelings, it may be that they are drawn to the colors that
remind them of this. Psychics, I believe, tend to desire a sense of
calm understanding, wisdom and celestial purity and could be drawn to
the colors which represent these ideals.
2. Some of the colors represented are associated with the major chakras
of the body. Red is the root chakra located at the base of the spine.
Orange is associated with the pelvic chakras just below the waist.
Yellow is associated with the solar plexus chakra. Green is said to be
the color of the heart chakra. Blue is associated with the throat
chakra. Indigo is traditionally said to be the color of the "third
eye", located in the middle of the forehead (some say this color is
actually violet.) Violet is traditionally said to be the color of the
crown chakra on top of the head, however some say this chakra is white,
some say it is gold, and some say it contains many colors. (Not being a
clairvoyant or a channeler, I personally have difficulty seeing the
colors in the chakras.) People may therefore be choosing the colors
that correspond to the chakras they feel are most attuned.
Question /Topic 10: Pick one
color which
you need more of in your life.
For possibly the same
reasons stated above, most empaths seem to choose "green", "blue",
"indigo", "violet", while most psychics seem to choose "green",
"yellow", "orange" or "red". Vampires it seems usually choose "green"
which I find interesting because green is associated with the heart
chakra, and my belief is that psychic vampires experience difficulties
with the heart chakra (the chakra most closely tied to our feelings of
caring and wellbeing for others.) Choosing "green" though is not an
indication of vampiric abilities since it is often a common choice for
both psychics and empaths as well. "Blue" seems to be the most common
choice for empaths, either because they seek the calm, peace and
cooling effects it has or because it is associated with the throat
chakra (which seems to be the weak chakra for many empaths - myself
included.)
Question/Topic 11: Pick one
color which
negatively affects you the most.
This is actually a
question of vampiric tendencies. Most people who consciously choose to
be vampiric seem to be bothered by the colors "yellow", "green" and to
a lesser degree "white". Alone this question is useless, but said in
conjunction with other questions, this question can be a decent
indication of these tendencies.
Question /Topic 12: Who
prefers rural or
urban areas.
This question is
mostly significant to empaths. Empaths usually prefer the peacefulness
of rural places away from the negative emotions that flood them in
urban settings. It would seem, though, that if strong empaths prefer
rural settings, then preferring an urban setting would be a sign of not
being empathic. This is not the case, however, as empaths who are less
sensitive may enjoy the flow of energy from crowds and may seek out
urban settings to recharge. (These empaths, however, should be wary of
recharging by taking energy from others without their explicit
permission.)
This habit could lead into psychic vampirism.
Energy exchanges in urban areas can be extreme however, they can also
sometimes become a violent maelstrom.
One of the reasons violence tends to occur in urban settings is because
of the energy flows that occur there.
Consider the way many people in urban areas live: small apartments with
other apartments close on either side as well as above and below. Add
to the equation the tremendous amounts of electromagnetic energy from
numerous power sources, and unnatural lighting sources such as sodium
vapor and florescent bulbs then subtract the natural energies blocked
by tall buildings and the natural energies lost due to fewer plants and
animals.
Most strong empaths and psychics experience difficulties with extended
visits to the city, however, there are a select few who are able to
channel those energy flows to their benefit. (These empaths and
psychics are usually extremely adept at blocking, shielding and
cleansing negativity.)
Question /Topic 13: Which of
the following
do you feel more drawn towards?
Empaths seem to
consider the earth as their domain, while psychics look to the sky.
(Many psychics have told me that they love to fly!)
Question/Topic 14: In times of
trouble do
you rely on feelings from your head, heart, gut?
Empaths tend to say
the "gut" (I would say, intuition, inner guidance), psychics tend to
say the "head" or "heart".
Question/Topic 15: To get out
of a dark
mood, who do you usually seek?
Both empaths and
psychics tend to say they sought solitude or the company of friends.
The most telling answer, though, was the company of people you don't
know very well... an answer someone with vampiric tendencies might lean
towards. The desire to borrow energy anonymously during times of
difficulty is a vampiric trait.
Question /Topic 16: How often
do you get
"feelings" about other people ?
Both empaths and
psychics describe themselves and are described as being very sensitive.
Being described as insensitive or overly sensitive, however, may be a
sign of vampiric tendencies since others may feeling that the energy
exchanges in one's relationships are not on an equal level.
In other words, if others see you as insensitive or overly sensitive,
they may feel that you are pulling energy from them or draining them.
If you choose to be insensitive as a way of blocking people from
draining you (not being vulnerable), there are other effective ways of
blocking while maintaining your sensitivity.
Question /Topic 17:
Under revision and
will be forthcoming in the near future.
Question /Topic 18:
Under revision and
will be forthcoming in the near future.
Question/Topic 19: Describes
the energy
exchanges between yourself and others.
Psychic and empaths
usually seek to keep energy exchanges on an equal level or may choose
to give energy to others.
People with vampiric tendencies often pull energy from others.
People who are not sensitive in terms of psychic/empathic abilities
tend not to be aware of energy exchanges.
Question/Topic 20: Rate your
healing
abilities and tendencies.
While vampires may
have the ability to heal, their tendency may be to harm.
Empaths and psychics tend to have strong healing abilities. The degree
of healing ability may be an excellent indicator of the strength of
one's empathic and psychic abilities.
The feelings one has in the chakras helps determine whether one is
leaning towards empathic or psychic abilities, and whether one has
blocks.
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